Married at 21 - Love or Lust

so i was perusing myspace and happened to come across the page of a "friend" and found out that she just got married! now you may be sitting there thinking, okay congrats to her, so what? well heres the catch, she just met this guy in january of this year...well she found him, she didn't actually meet him until late february. the story behind it is that she met him online on one of the many dating sites (which I am personally boycotting) he lived in a different state and is in the military, i'm assuming they talked reguarly and she eventually decided that he was worth the trouble so she flew down to texas to get some face time. they ended up doing the deed and she came back ecstatic and saying that she was in love with this guy and that they had planned on getting married as soon as he moved up here (he was stationed up here at the army base). and now they are married, in a mere 3 months of knowing each other.

i'm not critizing their judgement, i mean they are both very young and if they feel love is in the air then hey who am i to judge. i've heard of people falling in "love" and moving very fast to seal the deal. i was talking to a friend and she said that she would have to be with a person for at least 2 yrs before she married them, but for me i'm more of the wait 6mo to a year. i don't believe that you can learn everything you need to know about a person in 3mo, you need to live with them, spend ample time with them, get to know both families and friends, you have to learn their habits good and bad; i mean there really is a lot to learn before making those vows. I feel like in this case it may be a case of lust which people often mistake as love especially in the younger years...i wouldn't be surprised if infidelity became a problem.

how do you feel about rushed marriges? do you think there is a bit of insecurity that is being covered up? can these types of marriges last and stand strong in these times? how do young (and i mean 18 -23) newlyweds stay loyal and happy?

share your thoughts.

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